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Candid Candace:
After Candace married NHL star Valeri Bure, she put her career on ice for a while in order to stay home and raise a full house of her own. Happily married for over 12 years, this mother of three is playing a new role—one she wouldn’t trade for the world. Devoted to her husband and children, she is a role model to young women everywhere. Candace’s testimony is one of growing up in Hollywood, while growing in faith with God. Her passions include family, faith, and story time with her adorable audience of three. The heart that Candace has for people is reflected in her everyday life as well as through her involvement in charities such as the Make a Wish and Starlight Foundations. With charisma that lights up a room, Candace shines light on hope, and reminds us that the role of wife and motherhood is one to be desired. She is a speaker for various churches, colleges and outreach events, as well as a monthly columnist here at Christian Women Online Magazine, with her monthly column, "Candid Candace: The Q's & A's on Growing with God." Email Candace _______________________ send this page to a friend: _______________________ This month's Q's and A's: __________________________________
The only thing that really bothered me was when your character slept with Bobby (even though we didn't see it, it was definitely implied), and when I found out you were a Christian, I was a little torn on the judgment there. I'm not even sure if you were a Christian when you shot this movie, but I really just wanted to know your thoughts on some of the things that movie portrayed. _________________________
I think it's wonderful how you were aware that some of the movie made you uncomfortable from a Christian point of view. I filmed it about 13 years ago, and although I considered myself a "Christian" at the time, I was not living my life for Jesus. I remember being uncomfortable that my character "Stacy" had sex with her boyfriend (only implied by the script, not shown), but I also knew that the movie was based on a true story and they were trying to keep to the real story as closely as possible. As a mother and woman following Jesus, I can look back at the movie and wish there were some things that weren't in it. I may have made some other choices within the movie. And that's always the tricky part for a Christian actor, because a lot of people can't disassociate a character they are portraying with the real life person they are. Overall, I'm still proud of the movie because it has opened the eyes of many teenagers, giving them insight into abusive relationships. Do I wish that Stacy had not been intimate with her boyfriend? Of course. But it was important in keeping true to the real story. I think it's so great that you're discerning the difference between God's ways and the world's ways. Keep it up!!
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In the article I read that you are involved with 4 Kids of South Florida. I very much wanted to be a foster mother, but they want you to attend some 40 hours of classes at night, which is impossible for me since I have an 8-yr-old and I work fulltime. Is there anyway you could possibly help me become a foster mother without the classes? I have raised a 23-yr-old son, and an intelligent daughter, who is very helpful and well liked in school. Any advice you could give me would help me, and maybe some lucky foster child. My daughter always said she would like a sister, but I can't have any more children so why not be a foster mother? Look forward to hearing from you soon. _________________________
Unfortunately, I don't know of any way to become a foster parent and skip the training hours. Most foster parents are more than capable but the training is to ensure that those wanting to become foster parents really are right for it, willing and able. It's crazy to think that some people may foster with impure motives, but I'm sure the state and counties have seen these cases and do everything they can to make sure it doesn't happen. Also, with an organization like 4 Kids of South Florida, it's also important that the children are placed in loving Christian homes. Again, people can say anything they want on an application, so the training is a must to protect the children. I think the only type of full time care that wouldn't require training would be adoption. If you're really serious about fostering, prayerfully consider the 40 hours of training. God can make it happen even with your work schedule. What may seem impossible for us is never impossible with Him. Ask Him, and be prepared for Him to answer you.
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She is 8-years-old, and has been relatively sheltered. She understands many of the worldly temptations since we discuss them openly, but the points in between making the bad decision and the bottom of the pit have not been spelled out to her in detail. Would it be appropriate to bring her? If not, what age would be? I have a number of friends with the same question. I am looking forward to meeting you. Thanks for taking the time to answer my question. _________________________
I do believe my testimony is appropriate for any age although it's most relatable to teens and adults. I don't talk about sex in length although I mention it once by using the word "intimate." I briefly mention being a "drug addict or alcoholic" in talking about those things I wasn't. The strongest topic is about Heaven and Hell. I openly talk about Hell--not describing the pit, but sharing how we are all bound for it, if not for the grace of Jesus Christ. I have a 9, an 8 and a 6-year-old child. The two older ones have heard my talk (my six-year-old just isn't interested.) ;) We talk about heaven and hell openly at home. Without the talk of Hell, Heaven would not make sense, or would lessen its indescribable awesomeness. Some parents feel that only God's love should be talked about with a child, but I beg to differ. I believe that by sharing the WHOLE gospel--which includes sin and Hell--they'll experience a stronger walk into adulthood. I hope this helps you. In case you're still in doubt, you can also listen to my testimony on my website. I keep pretty close to what you'll hear on the site, although I'll often share other stories as the spirit leads me as well. Thank you again for such an important question and I hope to see you, with our without your daughter as the Lord leads you!
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Also, when you get your hair cut, how do you tell them you want it cut? I LOVE your hair! _________________________
To answer your questions--I use Sheer Cover mineral based powder foundations. Yes, it's a Leeza Gibbon's product: www.sheercover.com! I thought I'd try it, and I LOVE it. I use Frederik Fekkai hair products, which can be found at www.sephora.com. I have fine hair but a lot of it. It's the most resilient hair my hairdresser has even seen. I'm blessed with that, because my hair shouldn't be in as good of shape as it is since I've been coloring and highlighting it since I was 12. If you don't have a regular hairdresser that you love and trust, I'd take a picture of someone who's cut you'd like to emulate. That should help!
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I'm not sure if God is just still an abstract idea to him or if he just doesn't have a reverence for God yet. Would love to know your thoughts! Thanks so much! _________________________
I love The Way of the Master book for kids. It's a really fun way to learn the 10 commandments and the story of creation. Remember that the best way to teach your kids about who God is at a young age, is to reflect within yourself the very things you're trying to teach. In other words, live out your life for Christ. Your actions will speak loud and clear. Keep up the good work and put your worry to rest. God loves your boys more than you do! Can you imagine that?!
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I checked out your website and was reading this question and answer column when I came across the answer to your secret for keeping fit! First time I’m hearing of Pilates (strange pronunciation to boot!) I looked it up on Wikipedia, and found it grouped with Yoga. There are a lot of things said against doing Yoga, so I was wondering whether Pilates would fall into the same group. What are your thoughts on Yoga too? _________________________
Try it! I'm sure you'll love it too.
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Your role in the new movie "The Wager" is one of a seductive actress called Cassandra. And in one of your previous Q's & A's, you listed the questions that you ask yourself before you accept or receive a job. One of the questions was this, "Will the new job be pleasing to God, and will it glorify Him?" I asked myself, "How can this be pleasing to God?" The movie hasn't come out yet, and I don't know if your character, Cassandra, makes a turnaround in the movie (in which case I would say the part would be pleasing to God), but if she doesn't than how does it please God? I am DEFINITELY NOT trying to question your judgment, but when I heard about the movie I thought it would be a good way for me to invite some of my non-Christian friends to go see it (use it as a witnessing tool), but I don't know what it is about, and I don't know if you would recommend it as a witnessing tool or not. ______________________________________
Randy Travis's character, Michael Steel is struggling with life changing issues as God and Satan have placed a wager as to whether he is able to live out the Sermon on the Mount or not. My character is one of the temptations that forces Michael to make a decision about his wife and marriage. As I always want to honor God, my husband, and children, I purposely choose to be a part of the Wager because it's a Christian film that shows the struggles of everyday life. In no way was the character I portrayed or the script dishonoring to God, but can clearly be used as a tool for the saved and the unsaved. To answer your other question, yes, you can use this movie as a witnessing tool, although I think that I prefer The Passion of the Christ!! :) The Wager will be released on DVD May 13 nationwide. Blessings to you,
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I was surprised when I Googled your name and found out that you are Christian, and that you have a website that shares your experience with God. I want to ask you a question, what do you think about sex before marriage? Is it a sin? Please tell me your opinion about this. Thank you. _________________________
Do I think sex that before marriage is a sin? Yes I do, because the Bible teaches so. Starting with creation, God made man and woman. One of the purposes was to procreate. "Be fruitful and increase in number" (Genesis 1:28). He also wanted them to have an intimacy with one another, and sex was a tool to do that. Genesis 2:24, "For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh." In the Old Testament, many scriptures talk about remaining a virgin before marriage. There is much written about this subject in the Levitical law. The New Testament goes on to talk about it as well. 1 Corinthians 6:18 says: "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own". Also, Hebrews 13:4 says, "Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral". The seventh commandment says "You shall not commit adultery". Most of us assume adultery is only having sex outside of marriage. But Jesus said in Matthew 5:28 "But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." Adultery starts within our hearts, and remember that God is a judge of our heart. That's a high standard to hold up, considering most of us can look at an attractive person and immediately have sexual thoughts about them. But that's why Jesus came to save. He saves us from all our sin, because not one of us can keep His high standard. We are forgiven at the foot of the cross. At the place of grace we need to learn God's Word and right from wrong. Because the world has a skewed view of sex, marriage, and relationships, it's seems like such a tall order to keep from having sex before marriage—and it is! It's seems backwards from what the world says, and yet it's what the Bible clearly teaches. I know how blessed you will be to wait until your married, regardless of whether you've had sex before or not. You can always make a change RIGHT NOW. Pray about this subject, and talk to God about it. If you desire a deeper relationship with God, being obedient to His Word is where you need to start. There are also several great books out there that can help you understand why it's important to wait, and also give you the encouragement and the scriptures to do so. Many blessings in your journey,
______________________________________ If you would like to send Candace an email, she can be reached at email@candacecameronbure.net
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in commercials, prime-time hits, and critically acclaimed television movies, working with actors such as Sally Field and Tom Hanks. 
I recently saw your movie, "No One Would Tell," on TV, and loved it! It was eye-opening and powerful. Even though I thought that the overall message defeated some of the sinful things in the movie, it didn't make them go away. 
Thanks for your email. I'm glad you enjoyed watching "No One Would Tell." I've had a lot of email from people over the years who have watched it and learned a lot from it. I think they still show it in some schools today.
