On Modesty and Faith

Im a busty woman, who wants to wear cute clothes but can’t because most of them are really low cut or really tight. There’s a couple of halter top dresses I want, but I am not sure what to do as a Christian young woman.

Also, how do you stay strong in your faith? I love God with all my heart but won’t bring myself to read my Bible or pay him any attention because I’m “too tired, sick, not in the mood…” Any advice on it?


I love fashion! Because shopping is my specialty (wink wink). I know there are many choices for all body types that are trendy, classic, funky, or whatever your style is, that are still modest. The key to finding those pieces are to TRY TRY and TRY them on! I know most of us gravitate towards the styles we’ve worn before and feel comfortable in. I think it’s important to go shopping with a trusted friend who’s opinion is honest and has some sort of fashion sense. Try things on you wouldn’t normally try. You’ll be surprised at how something looks on a hanger and then on your body. Try new shapes, new colors–and go a size bigger. (Seriously, the number on the tag doesn’t matter. Only you know what it is!) Not all tops and dresses out there are tight, and going up a size may help if it’s form fitting but not meant to show every detail of your body.

Try new stores! I love department stores because the selection is usually big and varies from children, teens, women, petite and plus sizes. Step out of your comfort zone and dare to try on new styles. Don’t be bound to stay in the teen department just because you are one, or vice versa. You may be surprised at what you’ll find!

I also love shopping at boutique stores because you usually get personalized attention and they can help pick out shapes that fit you best. One more secret of mine–I’m a “Lucky Magazine” subscriber. This is a practical fashion and shopping magazine that can give you more ideas on what may fit your body the best.

As a Christian, modesty is very important. It’s something I struggle with at times because everyone’s view of modesty is different. I think a good rule of thumb is: if you wouldn’t feel comfortable wearing it at church, then don’t wear it! (Let’s not go overboard as to include bathing suits and P.J’s) But, I’m sure you understand what my point is.

The 7th commandment, “You shall not commit adultery” starts at lusting. Jesus explains this in Matthew 5:28. It’s important as women, that we don’t entice other men other than our husbands to lust over us. I know that some of this is out of our control, especially if you are an attractive woman. But there are things we can do to minimize any direct attention to our body parts by not overtly showing them off. It seems to me that you’re on the right path, as you want to stay modest and are inquiring about finding appropriate clothing.

As for halter dresses for busty women–this can be tricky. I have seen dresses in a halter style that cover all cleavage. You just have to search for it. You can always wear a halter style tank top underneath that would eliminate any cleavage showing if it’s V cut. A short jacket or wrap is also a good tool for extra coverage. Honestly, if you’re not sure and you feel even a bit uncomfortable that it may be too revealing, then don’t wear it.

A REALLY good alternative (for ANY body shape) is a wrap dress. These usually cover everything, flatter every figure and work for every age. It’s important not to wear what’s trendy if it’s immodest or doesn’t fit your body type just because it’s “in style” at the moment. Find clothes that suit you. Hope this helps!

As for staying strong in your faith, you said you love God with all your heart. Apparently not if you won’t bring yourself to read your Bible or pay him any attention. So many of us do love God in our hearts, but don’t want Him to be the Lord of our lives because it’s inconvenient. Please read The Way of the Master. You can purchase it at www.wayofthemaster.com. If this book doesn’t wake you up, I don’t know what else will. Loving the Lord isn’t just a feeling you have, it’s an act of obedience. You need to get right with God. Don’t wait. If you can’t buy The Way of the Master, then listen to a short sermon based on the book called “Soundly Saved” at their website.

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